I took copious notes during the Adoption 101 class but I’m going to try to sum it up.
Expectations if you foster to adopt: placement – 6 month court review – 8/10 month review – 12 month court review – termination of parental rights – 90 day appeal – adoptive placement – finalization. Inside these steps are extensions for the parents to try to get their rights back. The foster to adopt process takes a minimum of 15 months but usually is longer depending on the extensions.
Expectations if you straight adopt (kids whose parents lost rights but will not be adopted by the foster family):
- broadcast (an email we get that the kids are free and clear for adoption) – if no family is found from the broadcast, the kids get put on the TARE website
- if we express interest in a broadcast, our case study is submitted to the kids case manager. For ideal kids, case managers get over 500 case studies. In less ideal kids, meaning sibling groups, older kids or black kids (their words, not mine), case managers get around 250 case studies or less as medical issues or whatnot are presented.
- Selection staffing – the kids case manager narrows the 500 down to 3 to 5 families. Jen (from Arrow) tries to basically sell us as the ideal family for the kids.
- Case Record – we get all the info on the kids that the state has
- Presentation Staffing – the kids case manager basically tries to sell us on the kids
- 24 hours – from the presentation staffing meeting, we have to wait 24 hours then call the agency and say Yes or No. We cannot say Yes to adopting the kids at that meeting, even if we know we want them.
- Pre-Placement visits – meeting #1.we go to the foster home and actually meet the kids for the first time ever; meeting #2. we keep the kids for a day, take them to Sea World or something; meeting #3. the kids stay overnight.
- Adoptive Placement – if we get through all the stuff and have the kids placed in our home, we have to foster them for 6 months before we can adopt them
- Finalization – the kids are officially ours. We can change their names, get new birth certificates listing us as the parents, and change their social security numbers.
Through this entire process, we have the right to say No. And so do the kids. If we get all the way through that process, we would not say No. We would try to work with whatever comes up.
If at any time during the process, we say No. The kids have to completely start over at the broadcast step. Thus why so many kids are on that TARE website!
Jen said if you go Straight Adopt, and you are one of the lucky families to be selected from the massive amounts of submitted case studies, the entire process takes about a year to get to finalization. The hard part right now is actually getting selected. If we wanted a healthy white baby, it could be years before we even get the process going. However, that isn’t want we want. We want the kids that are older, siblings, and any race is fine, so we (hopefully) will be getting the process started sooner rather than later.