We have officially adopted our daughter. We went to court, got sworn in, and our lawyer called people to the stand, including Dave, Sue, & Sue’s CPS worker. They all were asked if they thought the adoption was a good idea (and thankfully they all said Yes). We technically are supposed to foster Sue for 6 months before we should be allowed to adopt her. We were one week shy of that 6 month date so Sue’s lawyer had to request a waiver – which the judge jokingly denied – which Dave didn’t find very funny – which made the judge suddenly worried about Dave. The judge tried to explain that he was only kidding and the day was a happy day and that he likes to joke around. It was a very emotional, happy, and huge moment in our lives…not really the time for corny jokes.
Sue’s brother was adopted by his foster family at the same time. We got to see him happily be accepted into his new family. Overall, it was an amazing day.
None of us really ‘feel’ any differently now. We still had to get up and go to work/school the next day. We still have bedtime, homework, chores…I will say that there is less worry and stress. We don’t have to fill out paperwork for every single thing that happens. And we don’t have to worry about CPS taking Sue away from us. Now we can just be a normal family.
As I said in the last post, our adoption agency is closing their office in our city. We were told on Thursday that we had to find a new agency by Friday. They really aren’t handling this transition very well. I emailed the lady and told her there was NO WAY we were choosing an agency by the next day and wanted to know the consequences. She strongly encouraged us to choose and do a release. I strongly told her that wasn’t going to happen. We talked to John (our case manager/trainer from Arrow) and he has accepted a position with Bair. We interviewed the case manager at another agency called Pathways. We talked to a few of the foster families we know at Arrow. After all of that, we’ve decided to go with Bair. We plan on just getting transferred over and keeping our license updated. We will be on hold for a while, as we get settled with our new little family. Then, sometime in the future, we will open back up and look to bring another child into the family. We’ve gone from a table for two to a table for three very quickly. When will it be a table for four? Only time will tell.